Reject Resolutions and Be Grateful Instead

Say Goodbye to New Year’s Resolutions!

Happy 2014 too!

We wrote this article at the end of 2011 but  think it is worth changing the date and re-posting. We hope you do too.

Happy New Year, Gracey and Joanne

Happy New Year 2013 Global Awakening

Goodbye 2012!

As we say goodbye to 2012, why not also say goodbye to making New Year’s Resolutions for 2013? Let’s face it, if you are one of the overwhelming majority of humans, and statistically speaking, you more than likely are, you won’t stick to the resolution anyway and this deviation from the plan can lead you down a path of self-destruction!

Russian psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik’s research from as early as the 1920s, showed that our subconscious is better at remembering our unfinished tasks than our completed ones.  So, it might be better not to start a project if you don’t plan to finish.  American psychologist Will Joel Friedman claims that being haunted by unfinished business prevents us from living in the present.  This nagging of the subconscious actually moves our accomplishments to the back burner while the remnants of our resolutions move to the forefront, increasing stress and gnawing away at our self-esteem.

Clear the Clutter!

This lack of harmony from unfinished events is thought to make us forget and be ungrateful for what we have and keeps us restless and yearning after what we don’t.  Friedman’s research showed that this yearning drives us towards more consumerism, wanting another child or marriage, or to the freezer for the leftover Christmas cookies.  The result is often, too much stuff cluttering up the home, dissonance with loved ones and perhaps expensive dental work.  In these troubled times, when we are bombarded with bad news every day, do we really need to subject ourselves to clutter of any kind, tangible or intangible?

Reject Making Resolutions

One way to stop our subconscious from sidetracking our lives is to reject making resolutions we know we won’t keep, reduce material clutter and start counting our blessings. Seems too simple, doesn’t it?  But research conducted in 2009 showed that an excessive focus on the accumulation of material goods leads to a plethora of negative consequences, including decreased happiness and well-being, as well as higher anxiety and less zest for life. Material driven people were also found to have lower and more erratic levels of self-esteem brought on by the reliance on external rather than internal sources of personal fulfillment

Current research also shows that individuals with a sense of gratitude, are less materialistic and more satisfied with their life.  People who are grateful for life experiences are more likely to be appreciative and this may lead to seeing the world as more meaningful.  A grateful person is likely to shift focus from seeking what one does not have, to being thankful for what they already possess. This grateful focus generates a sense of contentment with one’s life.

Gratitude is a Positive Emotion

I am grateful that when I turn on the faucet, clean water runs freely until I  choose to turn it off.  I am haunted by the images of people walking for miles,  carrying jerry cans in search of water from my trips to Africa the past two summers.  I can’t turn on the water to drink, cook or shower without thinking of those without this most basic need.  I am fortunate to have water, shelter and too much food.  My focus shifted after visiting Africa, and this sense of gratitude is leading me to feel content  rather than restless at the end of 2012.

Gratitude is a positive emotion that can broaden our perspective, inspire acts of kindness and build social bonds.  This year, let’s embrace the positive by being grateful and reject making those nagging resolutions.

Back up:

Lambert, N. M. (2009). A changed perspective: How gratitude can affect sense of coherence through positive reframing. The Journal of Positive Psychology , 4 (6), 461-470.

Lambert, N. M. (2009). More gratitude, less materialism: The mediating role of life satisfaction. The Journal of Positive Psychology , 4 (1), 32-42.

Mohanty, R. I. (2010, December). Tired of failed New Year’s resolutions? Use the Z-effect to your advantage. Christian Science Monitor .

Nelson, C. (2009). Appreciating gratitude: Can gratitude be used as a psychological intervention to improve individual well-being? Councelling Psychology Review , 24 (3&4), 38-50.

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  1. katboxjanitor says:

    I am going to work on decluttering the “to-do” list first. If I start just one more project I think I will wish catnip worked for me!

  2. Never make New Year’s resolutions. Know I wouldn’t keep them anyways. Why set my self up for certain failure? Happy New Year, sweet Gracey. xoxoxo

  3. queencatlady says:

    Once again Gracey and Mom, you give me lots to think about and great advice! <3 Ms. Phoebe sends headbonks to you Gracey, and Mercy too!

  4. How did you know that I’m heading to the freezer for those holiday cookies! I’m big on de-cluttering, but I live with a pack rat. I swear I was a former monk in a past life. I have zero attachment to things. I’m only attached to the 2 and 4-leggeds in my house.

  5. Ingrid King says:

    I love this post! As you know, I’m big on decluttering – and next Sunday’s post will be about resolutions, and why they don’t work. Happy New Year, Joanne and Gracey aka kindred spirits! 🙂